I’ve never done a video or post quite like this one.
I’ve been searching for some secret sauce. You know, that thing that when you have it makes all your efforts successful, and without it dooms them to mediocrity. Pretty sure I don’t have all the answers, but this video is a beginning.
I’d love it if you’d leave me your comments and let me know your thoughts.
Am I on track? Is this worth thinking about? Would you like more? Let me know…
Thanks Paul. you just hammered the nail in the head. there are many people feeling miserable, unsatisfied and even lost. But there is another angle to the same scenario and it is that many people try to define their life purpose, try to condense their mission in a single very specific phrase not understanding that as one is growing, developing and understanding more, the purpose or the means change inside and in order to resonate we have to change, modify or adapt the outer nature. If we are to prosper in life we have to change and adapt. Perhaps maintain the same principles and values but we have to change methods, jobs and even professions.
Thanks again, Tony
Hello Paul
As Muslim our life purpose is to make aware the human kind that there is one God and Prophet Muhammad was the last messenger. We also beleive that life is temporary and the real life is in the hereafter, which is never ending. Thanks for your thoughts.
Farhan, thank you for your perspective.
Paul, as with virtually everything that you make available, you share this important topic with ease, authority and eloquence. Great subject. Great presentation. Looking forward to more.
Hey Paul. You’re speaking my language, as you well know. I’m of course interested in the lens through which you’re seeing all this, and in where it’s taking you. Let’s talk further offline…
Paul, is resonance different at different ages? What do you think?
Joe – I believe that resonance IS different at different ages as well as different jobs, life situations, social strata, etc. I believe that’s because in each evolving situation there are different levels of noise that get in the way and make it harder to hear. A higher/lower signal-to-noise ratio, so to speak. Check out the next video – I’m going to talk about this very thing. Also, in each different situation there are varying levels of instability, which also affects the level of resonance.
Yes, I have proven that what you are talking about works. I would not be here without having started that journey 4 or 5 years ago. Here is a solid example of how I have aligned my business with who I am. People kept telling me “Serge, you need a mission statement….” I researched what that is and defined it in multiple ways and could never right one that would “resonate” with me. One day a lady told me, Serge, your business is an extension of you, simply describe yourself. I replied I don’t even now who I am, all she needed was my day of birth and month, she came back with 2 pages that described who I am to the T and mostly things I was not even aware of. Every sentence I read was a deep realization of something about me. Six hours later I had my mission statement and it resonated with me 100% and did exactly what you described, it provided energy and added confidence going forward. Plus I learned a whole pile of stuff about myself that is making things easier as a whole in my life.
Go for it Paul, there is something there.
Serge that’s a great story and a very interesting way to “find” that in yourself. Like magic…
Thanks Paul – I agree with the general sentiment of your video. I’ve also seen that, for many people, how they look at the world and the meaning they take from the things they do, the things that happen around them and the stuff other people do can be either the source of their misery or their joy.
In other words, changing your outlook or changing the meaning you assign to everything can have a profound effect on how you ‘feel’.
Changing your focus and what you choose to pay attention to is similarly a ‘simple’ switch … and yet so hard.
To use your analogy – many of us are walking around with radios that are broken. They are constantly tuned to the wrong station and using the wrong type of ‘decoding’ (AM instead of FM) … and we wonder where the music has gone. It’s still all around us – we’re just blind to it perhaps.
So, I’m curious about this journey you’re on and waiting to hear more. I hope you won’t drip this out too slowly 🙂
Personally, I don’t ‘believe in God’ … at least not in the way that is taught by any religion. I don’t mind if other people choose to believe differently and I don’t want to start a debate on that topic – I’m just hoping that this journey you’re about to share with us isn’t about ‘finding God’ or ‘finding your inner God’ or ‘working in his name’ or something of that nature.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the video … looking forward to the next one … soon?
Hey Colin, thanks for your thoughts.
Not so much worried about what people call things. The names or labels really don’t matter. Everything I’m saying can be interpreted in either a spiritual or secular manner.
More to come…
I kind of look at the radio analogy more as the radio is playing horrible music that you hate and commercials that drive you crazy. So..You bitch and moan about it when really you could simply change the station to one that is in alignment with your taste of music…
LOL… John, I was thinking more of the analogy rather than the prescription. I’m talking about “what it is” and you’re talking about how to shift your disfunction!
Paul, Your message is completely on target. The feeling of joy is something we are all searching for. Many people define joy differently but what you are describing is TRUE joy. Everyone wants it but many continue on their journey to find it. I look forward to watching your videos and hope to talk to you at CEO Space sometime.
Dee Dee
Hi Dee Dee – good to hear from you and thank you for your thoughts. Someone else said earlier that it’s easy to “feel good” and yet miss the big picture. I have to agree, it’s the TRUE feeling good, the TRUE joy that I think we’re after. And the difference is palpable. ~pl
Hi Paul,
Excellent video!
I like your “resonance” concept. Clients who work with me who can move from just focusing on ramping up revenues to aligning their businesses with their passions and purpose always feel more successful. They’re more relaxed. They project an aura of wholeness. And they simultaneously grow they’re businesses at phenomenal rates.
Unfortunately, most of us put our businesses ahead of our passions…in a backwards formula.
I’d also add that for me, it’s not just about “feeling good”. Trying to “feel good” can get us in trouble. We can fake ourselves out. We allow our success…our pursuit of “feeling good”…to lead us to bad choices.
To me, “feeling good” comes from knowing God. Putting him first. Trying to do everything to the glory of his name. Being a good example. Loving him and the people who come into my life.
He is the source of meaningful “resonance”.
Peace,
Robb
PS…I still owe you a testimonial.
Robb!
Perfect. Thank you.
So to clarify, at the human level “feeling good” comes in all sorts of flavors and colors. I think at the level of that which lives down deep within, the only way we can know it is just that, “feeling good.” IT probably has it’s own flavors and colors; those are just harder for me to tap into.
You and I are totally in sync when you say “Feeling good comes first from knowing God.” For me that’s where resonance comes in. I believe that the thing people call a soul is “God within.” Not to say God, but from the same place as God. And that’s what I’m trying to vibrate with, so to speak.
pl
Paul, right on. The day to day connections we experience affect our joy. However, I am finding more and more how much brain nutrition affects our interactive and spiritual potentials. Balancing out our neurotransmitters with good food and optimal supplementation is having a profound affect on all aspects of my patients health, including their levels of fulfilment and joy.
David – it’d be difficult to argue that the modern western diet (I call it “industrial”) is far from ideal to support life as we like it.
I was at a gas station in Rancho Santa Fe and learned about the Super-High-High-Test fuel you need to run your Ferrari. We’re trying to run our high-performance machines with average fuel and it ain’t working. Put another way, it’s like when my iPhone gets below 10% battery life (fuel); it turns off higher-function processes like SIRI, Bluetooth and Wireless which won’t come back until the charge level goes way up.
So it goes with us.
pl
You have discovered the Law of Attraction Paul. Many thought leaders have been ploughing this furrow for years Paul and before that this knowledge is written in all the ancient texts from many spiritual traditions. Essentially you are describing the Tao (The Way of Life) It’s good that a respected business coach like yourself has taken up the Baton. The loss of the love of your life may have proved a catalyst for you. Something beautiful can always come from loss.
Phil
Thanks a lot, Phil.
What I’m wanting to offer is grounded in ideas that have been around for eons and probably before this version of civilization or this version of people. (I’m thinking of the movie Stargate. You know, where the Egyptian Gods are really beings from somewhere across the galaxy and brought all this cool stuff before they started killing everyone.)
You know as well as I do that it’s not whether you’ve heard something before, but whether you are hearing it in a way now that lets you do something different.
The language I speak best is business, so I’ll speak that and I hope I can offer something in a way that allows for some new access, some new action.
That’s my plan…
pl
You are on to something Paul. My sense is that you are talking about your own journey as well as mine. I want you to be right about this. For both our sakes. Thanks for sharing.
Mike – I am without a doubt 100% talking about my own journey. And because I am doing what I do, I’m trying to translate into “human being” terms and make something valuable out of it. And because my language is usually grounded in business, somehow it will worm it’s way around to that. ~pl
Love this Paul!
Crack the shell and find out what’s inside. Sometimes its ooey. Sometimes its gooey. But it’s always worth the effort.
I think that’s why most people don’t make that journey. it feels too risky. We might get criticized. But it’s a necessary step. Which is why I still get to play music for a living. It’s messy but its worth it.
Love the video. Keep ’em coming.
Dan G
Dan – it IS risky, or it sure can be. I’m finding things that are both AWESOME and profoundly destabilizing of the current regime at the same time.
Paul, thank you.
I feel exactly what you are talking about.
I lost my soulmate of 32 years about 6 months ago.
She, frankly, was my purpose.
My life was designed to give to her as she gave unceasingly to me.
Since then I’ve lost a great deal of my motivation.
I also know that I need to snap out of it.
Daily, I pray a section of the Peace Prayer of St. Francis of Assisi.
“Oh, Divine Master, grant that I may seek not so much to be consoled as to console, to be understood as to understand.”
I look forward to your up and coming videos.
Thank you
Mark, I feel deeply for you. But – there was a purpose for which you two came together – at some human level and some soul level. Perhaps something huge you taught her; something huge she taught you. But she cannot have been your “purpose.” It just feels that way now. And sadly, it could feel that way for a while… (Wish I had better news, that kind of separation can be crushing…) For me an enormous weight was lifted when I found that I could miss her without being in pain, without suffering about it all the time.
I agree with you Paul, 100%.
I believe that when we do what we love it feels good,
and if we do what we love we will discover that we are gifted at what we love,
and allowing our own unique expression of what we love is where the unique gift or talent lies.
So, if we were talking to two different wood carvers, we may learn that each one has a different way of achieving the finished look that their amazing products have. One may soak the wood in water at some stage, one may fire-seal the wood. These may be techniques they discovered by themselves. These techniques, would be their own unique expressions of what wood carving should be. Tesla and Ferrari would be unique expressions of what cars should be. Sting and 50 Cent would be unique expressions of what music ought to be… and like you said Paul, there is no right and wrong.
It may take some time to realise our own unique expression and believe in it (because too many of us spend too many years thinking that being different is not a good thing), if we have not always done what we love.
I also believe that doing what we love feels good because we are on purpose,
and that our feelings are the dashboard of our existence.
Thank you Paul, this is a brilliant and thought-provoking post!
Joseph, It’s great to hear from you. You’re said that beautifully. Regarding “take some time to realize.” Perhaps, and these days I’m thinking things can happen SUDDENLY.
Paul.
I am intrigued and wondering about the “how to”?
You said” no opt in” That can’t mean no cost, does it?
Elaine
Hi Elaine, “No opt-in” means no opt-in. 🙂 I’m working on how best to share “how-tos.” For now, take use the clues.
Thanks Paul! – Yes, RESONANCE is underestimated, probably “overlooked” is the word I’m looking for.
I don’t know anyone who is fully attuned to their soul. I know I’m not and it is a path. A search.
Looking forward to the rest of your videos – I hope to gain more clarity, therefore more confidence and better results. Cheers!
Bruno… Fully attuned? Doubtful, at least not in say the first five-thousand lifetimes… LOL. But at least paying attention and getting started. That wouldn’t be bad…